Designing a Life That Fits™
Coaching for life's deeper questions
I help people who have outgrown the life they've built create one that fits who they are now.
You don't need to start over. You may simply need a life that reflects who you've become.
does this sound familiar?You might recognize yourself here…
• You feel stuck between who you've been and who you're becoming
• You keep encountering the same relationship patterns
• You understand what's happening—but struggle to create change
• You feel disconnected from purpose, meaning, or direction
• You're navigating a major transition and questioning what comes next
• You want greater clarity, but also meaningful action
You don't need to have all the answers.
You simply need a place to begin exploring the right questions…
You Understand Yourself Better Than You Used To.But understanding yourself and creating a life that truly fits are not always the same thing.
This work helps bridge the gap between insight and action.
Who this work is for
This work may be for you if you:
Are navigating relocation or life transitions…
and feel caught between who you've been and who you're becoming
Feel disconnected from purpose, fulfilment, or direction...
○ and want greater clarity about what comes nextKeep encountering familiar relationship patterns...
and want to understand yourself differently within them
Are drawn to deeper frameworks…
like archetypes, schemas, or the Enneagram—and want to actually apply them to your life
Hi, I’m Rebecca Steele
I help people better understand themselves so they can create lives that feel more aligned, meaningful, and fulfilling.
Many thoughtful people spend years adapting to what life asks of them and eventually realize they've lost touch with what they actually want.
Through a process of:
self-understanding
identity development
meaning-making
life design
we'll explore what you've outgrown and help you create a life that fits who you are now.
Whether you're navigating a transition, questioning your direction, exploring a sense of belonging and identity, or seeking a deeper understanding of yourself, this work is intended to help you move forward with creating a life that feels designed for you.
If you're here, something in you may already know it's time for a new chapter.
It’s an honor to meet you at this turning point.
It is time to realize you can become freer.
Welcome to…
a deeper way of seeing yourself
In a world that often asks us to define ourselves through titles, roles, performance, or productivity, my approach invites you back to something older, wiser, and far more intimate:
your patterned, symbolic life.
Together, we explore the patterns, motivations, values, and questions shaping your life—so you can make choices that feel more aligned with who you are becoming.
This work is about understanding yourself more deeply and creating a life that actually fits.
I’m here to help you see the patterns and structures that shape your life — so you can meet them with clarity, compassion, and choice.
Patterns can change when we understand them.
A Deeper Way of Understanding Yourself
Many of the people I work with discover that their challenges are connected to deeper patterns that have been shaping their lives for years.
Archetypes offer one way of understanding these recurring themes.
These are three archetypal patterns that frequently emerge for people:
emotional orphanLearned to handle emotions alone. Finds it hard to rely on others—longing for connection, but unsure how to trust it.
helperFeels responsible for others. Overextends, often at the expense of their own needs.
scapegoatCarries blame or emotional burden. Often feels misunderstood, “too much,” or not enough.
Let's pay attention to the life that's trying to emerge.
A Free Resource for Deeper Self-Understanding
The Belonging Pattern™
A FREE 3-part series exploring the orphan, helper, and scapegoat archetype patterns — and how they shape identity, relationships, and self-worth.
How We Can Work Together
Focused, structured ways to support your growth, self-understanding, and life design.
Designing a Life That Fits™
Focused, high-impact coaching designed to help you gain clarity, navigate meaningful change, and intentionally create a life that reflects who you are becoming.
Belonging Pattern™ Series
A 3-part series exploring the orphan, helper, and scapegoat patterns — and how they shape identity, relationships, and self-worth.
Workbook
A self-guided resource (coming soon) exploring recurring patterns, self-understanding, and personal growth.
There is another way to live.
You don’t need more insight alone.
You need integration
Self-understanding is powerful. But meaningful change happens when insight begins to shape how you live, choose, relate, and move through the world.
If you're ready to better understand yourself, navigate a transition, or intentionally design a life that feels more aligned, I'd love to support you.
This work is for people who are ready to go deeper, get specific, and create meaningful change.
Testimonials
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“Sharp, quick witted and deeply compassionate, with a good dose of funny and unconventional. I enjoy how Rebecca works but even more, I enjoy her as a human.”
Drew Newkirk LPC, LMHC
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“Rebecca is the perfect blend of deeply intuitive, relatable, knowledgeable, and professional. I highly recommend if you're looking to further your journey through deep and significant work.”
Pamela DeVoe, LMHC
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“Rebecca brings a calm, guiding wisdom to her approach with her clients. From the first time you speak with her, you will feel her safe energy and wisdom"”
Laura Beaver, LCSW
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“Rebecca's presence and perspective are rare, helping her speak to the deep thinkers and feelers among us. I would recommend her wholeheartedly.”
Chelsea Adams, MA, LPC
~james hillman~“Anytime you’re gonna grow, you’re gonna lose something. You’re losing what you’re hanging onto to keep safe”Frequently Asked Questions — A Few Things You Might Be Wondering
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This is coaching, not therapy.
That said, my approach is depth-oriented and draws from many of the same frameworks I use in therapy—like schema patterns, attachment, and archetypal work.Rather than treating mental health conditions, coaching is about helping you understand your patterns, shift how you relate to them, and move forward with greater clarity and intention.
Some people work with me alongside therapy. Others come to this work after therapy, when they want to continue exploring and applying what they’ve learned.
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You don’t need to.
A lot of people come in with a vague sense of:
“Something isn’t working, but I can’t quite name it.”
That’s enough.
Part of the work is learning how to see your patterns more clearly—whether that’s through archetypes, relational dynamics, or the roles you tend to take on.
You’re not expected to arrive with insight. You develop it here.
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I tend to work with people who are self-reflective and wanting to go deeper.
That often includes:
People drawn to personality systems like the Enneagram, and wanting to go beyond surface-level insight
Expats or digital nomads working through identity, belonging, or transition
Those who notice patterns in relationships, self-worth, or decision-making that keep repeating
People who feel they've outgrown the life they've built and want to discover what comes next
You don’t need to fit into a specific category.
But if you’ve been trying to understand yourself on a deeper level, you’ll likely feel at home in this work. -
Both—but not in a rushed or formulaic way.
This isn’t about quick fixes or being told what to do.
But it’s also not endless exploration without direction.We work to understand your patterns clearly, and then shift how you relate to them in real, practical ways—so the insight actually translates into change.